Interment tribute

This is what I read out at Ailish’s interment on June 6, 2011:

Sometime after Ailish and I had professed our love for each other, Ailish had a conversation with me. She thought maybe we were saying, “I love you” too often. Maybe if we said it too often, it wouldn’t be as meaningful.

I disagreed. I disagreed about as thoroughly as I ever disagreed with her about anything. I knew how amazing Ailish was even before our first date, and every single time I told her I loved her, I meant it. I meant it with every part of my soul. I thought we should say it more often. We should say it every morning, before we left for work. Every evening when we came home. When we were cooking supper. When we were sitting watching television. Before we went to sleep.

And we did. And all I wish is that I could have told Ailish how much I loved her another million times.

Here’s a link to flowers my mom sent. WordPress won’t attach images properly and I’m not going to fight it any more.

Christopher Thompson
June 8th, 2011 6:58 PM

It will probably come as no surprise that I calculated how many times I said, “I love you” to Ailish. And I calculated how many more times I should have been able to say it.

June 9th, 2011 6:39 PM

I completely agree. You can never say “I love you” too often.

And no, it comes as no surprise at all that you did the math, I would have cast the disappointed rain cloud of shame over your head if you hadn’t. And Chris, remember that even though Ailish may not be in the room with you, you can still tell her how much you love her. I think she’ll still hear you. *Hug*

June 11th, 2011 12:42 AM

Chris I loved your tribute at the interment. I have felt a little more at peace some of the time since. Hope we can all find a little more peace little by little.

Christopher Thompson
June 11th, 2011 8:36 AM

I think I’ve said before, I never really understood poetry until Ailish died. Now I see why people use poems. They aren’t perfect, but they often do a better job expressing thoughts and feelings than I’m capable of myself. I just couldn’t find a good poem to use at Ailish’s interment.

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